Instagram / @ihavethisthingwithpink Show So you've been dating your guy for several months now. Maybe he's even your boyfriend at this point. Everything is going great except for one thing: there is absolutely no evidence that you exist anywhere on his social media. For all intents and purposes, you're a ghost. You don't exist. His Instagram is full of pictures of his friends, his coworkers, his dog, even some random dog he saw on the street one time. But you- nope. You're definitely not tagged in anything on his Facebook either. And you're certainly not Facebook official yet. After so many months together, and so many memories you're wondering: why are you nowhere to be found on his social? There's a reason, and it's not good. I have personal experience with this on a few different occasions. I dated a guy for five years who never put me ANYWHERE on his social media. We were never Facebook official. In fact, he never even friended me on Facebook and he wouldn't accept my friend request. He didn't have Instagram, but didn't want to be featured on my Instagram either. No shock-- it turned out he was cheating on me. Actually- he fully had a girlfriend. I think I was actually the mistress? I'm not sure how this all works. Either way, I was oblivious to all of it. But, the social media blackout was a warning sign. I dated another guy who didn't want to feature me on social media either. We took plenty of photos together. He'd even say to me, "that will be cute to post!" but he never did it. After several months it became very clear that although I was his main girl, I was not his only girl. Is your significant other making a point of looking like he is single on all forms of social media? If so, some of these behaviors might sound familiar. I've been dating the same guy for 9 years, and last year I moved away from my family to live with him (2000 miles away). I am 25 and I think that he is my soulmate but there are some things that I am suspicious of. The #1 thing that is bothering me He won't friend me on Facebook. When we originally started dating, he un-friended me because I was "clingy" (I'll admit I was). I was childish and he didn't want me posting "cute things" on his facebook wall. I've grown up a lot but he still won't friend me. I should mention that he current has two Facebooks - one that he's had since High School (account #1) and one that he created after we moved away, which is the title of his contracting business (account #2). He won't friend-request me on "account #1" which is the one that uses his real name. When I asked why he wants two accounts, he said that he doesn't want his religious parents to see his old wall-posts including pictures of drinking and parties (which I think is understandable) but he also won't friend ME on that account My concerns are that he's using his other facebook account to talk to his ex-girlfriend and doesn't want me snooping. The part of this that I find really disrespectful is that he is still accepting friend-requests from other GIRLS, just not me. (I can see the "recently added friends" on the wall of his private account) I also have a suspicion that the other account might say that he's single, but I have no way of knowing because he won't accept my friend request. Women of Reddit - Am I worried over nothing? What should I do? All-in-all i would feel way more comfortable if I knew that that he has listed "in a relationship" on the other account. But how do I find out? TL/DR; Boyfriend of 9 years has two facebook accounts. He won't "friend" me on the account that uses his real name and I don't know why. What should I do?
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Why my boyfriend won't post me on social media?It could be new territory for them. Maybe they've never had a long-term SO to post about. Or maybe they have dated seriously in the past, but have never posted about an SO. Your partner might have the capacity or the urge to make cute Insta posts about you, but not know how to proceed (or that it's something you want).
When should you add your boyfriend on Facebook?She suggests waiting about a month, or until you've defined the relationship, before friending someone on Facebook. And, perhaps more important than coming on too strong, following someone too early could impact your own thoughts about your potential new partner before you've had time to get to know them.
Is it weird to add him on Facebook?There's no harm in adding him of fb; you're not going have to 'justify' this alone. He'll quite possibly be one of those who adds anyone on fb anyway. If he's a bit more thoughtful with his adds, he'll almost certainly either remember you from school or deduce that based on mutual friends. Sure, go ahead and add him!
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